To attract love, you should have a spring in your step and a desire to do things. If you just want to sit at home and watch TV, you might need to do that on your own. Most singles over 50 are a vibrant, active group who still want to do and see so much.
Have Fun
“Forget about having it all, or not having it all, leaning in or leaning out,” she said. We had more important things to worry about, like the alarming decay rate of our attractiveness. If we graduated without a future husband in tow, the men in our class would forgo us for younger, dumber women.
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And I realize you guys are being treated unfairly to pay for what some jerk did to a woman. People aren’t honest and kind anymore to each other. I am not at all averse to dating women my age. But one problem I am having is that I look young for my age and many of the women on the sites who are my age seem to look much, much older than their age – like in their 70’s. I am sure that comment won’t go over well but I am just being honest about what I am seeing so far that is throwing me off.
Most are either married or say they have a boyfriend. I was married for 24 years and had plenty of girlfriends before then. I feel like I live in the Twilight Zone. I have found that all guys play games, even when I have shown them that I am not into that.
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Now Im 58 lets say I get married at 60 so then at 80 my wife will come to me that she as never loved me. No thanks – once burned 20,000 times shy. I really don’t get this obsession with appearance. To me, appearance is way down hitwe com the list of things I am looking for in a woman. I tend to not approach the top 10% of women in looks, the ones with the perfect body, the perfect wardrobe and the perfect makeup because they tend to be high maintenance women.
These things can help you feel better overall, as well as feel better about yourself as a person. Take a class or do something to mingle with people. If you put your positive self out there you will attract something good. Bill…..I am 50 and I have been divorced.
If your relationship is getting to the point that you’re introducing him to the people in your life, be prepared to defend the age gap if you need to. Well-meaning people are generally wary of large age gaps in relationships. During all this time spent romancing the written word in its various forms, I was also dealing with the train wreck that was my romantic life. I feel compelled to delve deeper and spread awareness to help others like me love more mindfully.
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Been dating for 15 years since my divorce. I have had around 6 relationships since divorce. With the exception of one woman that was close to my She, all of them are younger then me by anywhere from 8 to 25 years. Trust me as I reach my late 50’s I know I was seeking the wrong thing’s. Had I had the chance to do it all again… I would of followed a different path. As I write this I have a 25 year old model in my bed wondering how to get her out nicely.
For most of us, a GF after age 50 is just NOT in the cards. I’ve reproduced, I’ve done my duty to the propagation of the human species. Sure, it would be nice to have someone to wake up next to, and have sex with, and feel intimate with. But the vast female single age appropriate population isn’t interested in that with someone like me. Not surprising at all to this 50-something guy.
Men just don’t trust women anymore, and I can’t say that I blame them, judging by the stories I’ve heard here. If you care about someone you’ll want to make them happy, and that only works if both people are invested and make an effort to do for someone other than themselves. That’s different from a casual relationship where sex is all there is. Many don’t find that type of relationship satisfying, because it does nothing for the soul, only the body. It all depends on what you’re looking for. EyesWideOpen……….You did the right thing by cultivating male friendships.
Just because your friends or parents don’t approve doesn’t mean you don’t date an older man you have a connection with. You can try to make them see why you’ve chosen to be with him. Or just give it time and wait for them to come around. As long as you can see the benefits of dating an older man you’re with and being with him makes you happy, that’s all that should matter. Just because you’re dating an older man, doesn’t mean you have to put your life on hold or that he has to radically change who he is for you. Get in touch with your friends, make plans, and have fun.
Either a guy can attract women or he can’t – and if he can’t, there’s no point in trying. Through our journeys and observations what we’ve seen and learned is that life is what you make of it. And if you fail to adapt you will die and sometimes suffer fates worse than death.